Ah, Valentine’s Day. Red roses, chocolate hearts, and
romantic overpriced candlelight dinners. Oh, and these delightfully accurate — and chuckle-worthy — valentines from each introverted Myers-Briggs personality type, courtesy of Sassy ENFJ.
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A Valentine From Each Introverted Personality Type
Practical and hard-working, the ISTJ is perhaps the most abundant of all the Myers-Briggs personality types, making up about 13 percent of the population, according to 16 Personalities. Known for their honest and direct communication, this extremely responsible introvert would rather lose sleep than go back on their word. Masters of (quietly) creating and enforcing order, ISTJs aim for efficiency in all that they do; disorganization and unclear expectations are the enemies.
If an ISTJ loves you, they’ll not only make (common sense) room for you in their (perfectly under control) life, but with a keen eye for detail and a penchant for follow-through, they’ll ensure your world runs smoothly, too.
Making up nearly 13 percent of the population, the ISFJ is another common Myers-Briggs personality type. And thank Cupid for that, because couldn’t we all use some more loving-kindness and concern — oh, and cookies? Known as “the defender,” the ISFJ is the ultimate caregiver. Supportive, reliable, and hard-working, ISFJs delight in making others happy, on both an emotional and pragmatic level.
If an ISFJ loves you, they may not say it in an abundance of words, but they’ll show it in little ways, no matter what.
Okay, so, “screw you” is hyperbole. This introverted personality, although not keen on romance in the traditional “chocolate and poetry” sense, can make a wonderful partner. Making up about 5 percent of the population (according to Truity), ISTPs are optimistic, energetic, and practical. Hands-on and always present in the here and now, ISTPs posses a rare mix of spontaneity and cool logic, able to effortlessly switch mindsets to adapt to new situations (just one of the many reasons they’re great in a crisis).
Relaxed and generally worry-free, ISTPs find intimacy in shared experiences and adventures of the five senses. Just don’t expect a Shakespearian love sonnet — you’ll never get it.
Ah, emotions. They can be tricky for this deeply private introvert. Making up about 9 percent of the population, the ISFP is sensitive, kind, and creative. Charming and curious, with a vivid imagination and natural artistic sense, ISFPs easily pick up on others’ feelings, making them likable, easy to be around, and harmonious. Yet beneath their somewhat shy, easy-going exterior, beats an intensely emotional heart. But don’t expect to readily see that heart, even though it acts as the ISFP’s rudder, steering everything they do.
Sensual and present, ISFPs will share their very private emotions only with those closest to them (and it will mean everything). It helps if you hold their hand.
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Making up about 4 percent of the population, the sensitive and idealistic INFP is a fairly rare personality. Altruistic and open-minded, INFPs are creative, deeply emotional souls who possess a natural propensity for language. Inspirational and at times unconventional, INFPs are able to unify seemingly disparate ideas into a single, easily grasped theme — no wonder so many of them are highly lauded poets and authors! Another strength of this passionate personality is their intuitive understanding of their own values and emotions.
As a result, INFPs can be quite selective about who they let into their lives, especially their inner circle. If an INFP loves you, you are special indeed. You’ve: 1. passed the INFP’s high ideals of romance, and 2. are a good human being, fully worthy of reverence and admiration.
The brilliant philosophers and deep thinkers of the Myers-Briggs world (a.k.a. nerds), INTPs comprise about 3 percent of the population, making them quite rare. Imaginative and original, INTPs pride themselves on their intellect and creativity. And indeed, this introvert is known for their world-changing ability to innovate (see: Albert Einstein and Charles Darwin). Honest, straightforward, and at times absent-minded (as the “head-in-the-clouds professor” stereotype suggests), INTPs are forever on a quest for truth.
If you love an INTP, be prepared for some randomness and the occasional awkward moment, as romance doesn’t come easily to this highly analytical introvert. Meet them in their mind (or at least on Naboo, in its early days).
Making up only 1 percent of the population, the paradoxical INFJ is considered the rarest of all the Myers-Briggs types. Nevertheless, this insightful and creative introvert leaves their mark on the world in a big way. Combining a rich imagination and resilient sense of compassion, INFJs desire to right social wrongs and serve humanity on a large scale (see: MLK Jr. and Gandhi). Possessing what’s known as the “INFJ stare,” this intense personality easily pierces to the heart of the matter in any given situation. Perceptive and often wise beyond their years, with a natural ability to read people well, INFJs see the hidden “souls” of those around them.
When it comes to love, INFJs make conscientious and thoughtful partners. And when an INFJ loves you, they love you for all that you are.
Another rare personality, INTJs make up about 2 percent of the population. Known for their strategic, quick-thinking minds, this rational introvert moves through life like a game of chess — always one step ahead of everyone else. Independent and decisive, valuing hard logic over personal values and preferences, INTJs can be a bit unconventional, but hey, it’s all part of the plan. With an honest, direct, and straightforward communication style — unhampered by what they “should” say, according to social norms — INTJs can get a bad rap for being too analytical and robotic.
Nevertheless, deep down in their heart organs, INTJs desire love and connection, too, even if they have a funny way of expressing it.
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