21 Undeniable Signs That You’re an INFJ Personality Type

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INFJs can be quirky, complicated, and sometimes downright contradictory. How do you know if you’re an INFJ, the rarest of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types? Here are 21 undeniable signs that you are. These signs might not be true for every INFJ, but I believe they are generally true:

1. From a young age, you felt different from the people around you. Even if you had plenty of friends, you never felt like you truly fit in. Sometimes you faked being more like them so they would accept you.

2. You want to know what’s REALLY going on in people’s lives, not just trivial stuff like what they did this weekend or what they bought on their latest shopping trip. You want to dig deep and get at the things that no one else sees. What does the person in front of you really think? How does this person really feel? The fake facade they put up for other people doesn’t fool you.

3. You feel more comfortable having a loose plan for things than you do completely winging it.

4. You can be both incredibly shy, quiet, and withdrawn, as well as charming, fun, and hilarious. It’s all about the situation, your mood and energy levels, but most importantly, the people you’re with.

5. When someone comes to you with a problem, you usually don’t give them advice or your opinion unless they ask. Instead, you ask them questions to help them better understand the situation and their own feelings about it. Sometimes you tell a story of a time when something similar happened to you, in the hope that they’ll draw their own lesson. You feel like you can usually see the path they should take, but you don’t want them to do it just because you told them to — you want it to be their decision.

6. You like being alone, but you can’t be alone for too long. Eventually you need to reunite with  your people. “Your people” are a handful of good friends who truly “get” you. Deep conversations with these people are priceless, and hanging out with them can actually boost your energy.

7. You’ve been known to suddenly cut people out of your life when they’ve hurt you one too many times. It’s not that you enjoy cutting people out, rather, you do this simply to protect yourself. Even though you may look like you have it together on the outside, you’re extremely sensitive inwardly, and you’re especially sensitive to other people’s words and actions.

8. Sometimes you try so hard to make other people happy that you forget to make yourself happy.

9. You often feel like you see precisely what someone else is feeling, and you believe you know what they need deep down. You’re not always right, but you tend to be more perceptive than most.

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10. You feel like you’re destined for so much more than just dragging yourself to your 9-5 job to pay the bills. You want to help people and change the world — not just get a paycheck. The problem is you either don’t know what your “glorious purpose” is, or you have an inkling, but you don’t know how to achieve it.

11. You almost always have this sinking feeling like you could be doing better with your life. This results in you constantly have secret self-improvement projects going on, like learning how to cook healthy meals, setting better boundaries, or getting better at articulating yourself. Sometimes you push yourself too hard as you attempt to achieve your “perfect” life.

12. Sometimes you turn to people-pleasing to protect yourself. You’re sensitive, so you can get really bothered when someone criticizes you or is disappointed in you. They can’t criticize you if you make them happy.

13. You often immediately sense the mood of a room when you walk into it. Likewise, you often absorb the feelings of the people around you. If they’re excited, you get excited. If they’re anxious, you get anxious, too. You tend to gravitate toward calm, centered people so you don’t have to deal with as much emotional garbage.

14. You’re drawn to high-quality things, like good food, high-end clothes, and anything else that has good craftsmanship. As much as you hate to admit it, the way things look is important to you. You like being surrounded by beauty, and you tend to have sophisticated, refined tastes. But you’re a minimalist at heart. You’d rather have one or two really nice shirts than ten mediocre ones.

15. You care deeply about the people in your life, but they’ll probably never know just how much you care, because you keep your feelings mostly to yourself. You can have trouble articulating your emotions, even though you feel them intensely.

16. You’re usually thoughtful, conscientious, and considerate. Other people who are not as conscientious can seem callous and even cruel.

17. You love learning, especially when it comes to psychology, self-improvement, spirituality, and certain sciences.

18. When everyone else is gossiping, discussing celebs, or talking about other trivial things, you often find yourself thinking about outer space, time travel, human nature, the meaning of life, and other more epic topics. You rarely try to steer the conversation in that direction, though, because you don’t think other people will be interested.

19. You feel compelled to get things done. You often write to-do lists, and you enjoy checking things off them. If you don’t have a goal to work toward, after a while, you feel lost and bored.

20. When you’re passionate about something, it feels like nothing can stand in your way. The INFJ motto is, “The impossible takes just a little bit longer.”

21. Other people see you as wise, insightful, and almost spiritual. They often come to you for advice and emotional support. You relish your role as the “wise one,” and you like being needed. But sometimes it becomes too much. You’re an introvert, for crying out loud, and sometimes you just wish everyone would solve their own problems and leave you alone for a while.

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  • Heidi

    Every. last. one. Nailed it.

  • Cornelia Andersson

    Right on spot in every way!

  • Karilisa

    Yep! Thank you for explaining myself to me 🙂

  • This describes me perfectly. I was cheering and nodding to every. Single. Point. I’m glad websites like these exist now.

  • njguy54

    Pretty much on point. The only difference in my case is #7. I’ve tended to stick with people much longer than I should, even after the relationship becomes unhealthy for the both of us.

    • IBikeNYC

      I’ve done both.

  • IBikeNYC

    Very much me, especially #14.

    I’d never thought to attribute these kinds of traits and habits to my introversion. This post is validating in so many ways. Thank you!

  • Janina Oakley

    This actually released tears. I am so glad this information is out there now; such a help for all of us who always knew we never “fit”, but never knew why. Thank you.

  • Lynda Carter

    #5 for sure, but all of them ring true!

  • Pratikshya Mishra

    very very true.. each and every single point…

  • Cactus Horizon

    I feel like this list reads like a horoscope and could almost match anyone……

  • Deepak

    Right till the last point. Can’t really understand why the world become so methodical now. Like every INFJ have these things in common now. But their tastes differ in some areas.

  • The emotions part seems off, in regards to not voicing them. I keep reading how infj is emotionally extroverted, wanting to talk about those things, to help others. I’m sure there’s a flipside, we are still introverts lol.

  • Agusta Fridfinnsdottir

    Description af ME <3

  • Lou

    #7 cutting people out of my life for my own protection…YES! I unfortunately am going through that now. It’s so painful, but I had to do it or I would wither up. Perfect list….all true!!

  • Vishal Bheeroo

    Enjoyed reading this post about different personality and many times, we have so many traits not just one!

  • Hazel Vu

    Every single point is like slashing through my mind and heart!! Especially #15 🙁 sad but true, i wonder if there is a way for us to overcome that…

  • Nehemiah Joel Williams

    This was amazingly well articulated and accurate on so many levels. Thanks for writing this!

  • Samantha Budhu

    Thank you, this describes me so accurately, no doubt about it (INFJ)

  • JBalogun

    This is so on point, chuckled to a few.

  • Fedor Amuricano

    Thats too much for a day

  • Darlene Reilley

    Yes! Some are scarily true…and others are just true. INFJ has positives and problems…just like everyone else. #9 is so right…and sometimes you realize things that other people don’t realize about themselves. Love the post!

  • Ann Roy

    I cried actual tears of happiness after reading this
    Now I know there are other people like me out there :”)
    thought I was the awkward and the odd one

  • Marie Nolan Liston

    Yes. Yes. Yes. Each of these are spot on. Thank you for making me not feel like the only one!

  • Number 14 was what decided this for me. And all this time I thought I was INFP as I don’t like to be “boxed in” by schedules!

    • Lauren Teresa Smith

      That’s understandable. I thought I was INFP too.

  • Nessie

    Spot on.

  • Alanna Jane

    Every. Single. One!

  • Janice Cochran

    This is actually spot on for me too. Every single one of them.

  • Lauren Teresa Smith

    Is it possible to have an INFJ childhood, INFP adulthood (to please others), but mostly being an INFJ? I’m learning though to accept and embrace the natural INFJ that I am creatively and uniquely no matter what people will say & try doing. We have a voice just as important as anyone else.

  • 阿部ちゃんの妻です😘

    I’m supposed to be INFP and a strong Fi-Ne user but why all of this relates so much to me?

  • 阿部ちゃんの妻です😘

    I seriously think this was written by an INFP who were mistyped as INFJ. After all, INFP is commonly mistyped as INFJ

  • Ash

    This is so dead on!