21 Undeniable Signs That You’re an INFJ Personality Type

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INFJs can be quirky, complicated, and sometimes downright contradictory. How do you know if you’re an INFJ, the rarest of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types? Taken as a whole, these 21 signs show that you just might be.

1. From a young age, you felt different from the people around you. Even if you had plenty of friends, you never felt like you truly fit in. Sometimes you faked being more like them so they would accept you.

2. You want to know what’s REALLY going on in people’s lives, not just trivial stuff like what they did this weekend or what they bought on their latest shopping trip. You want to dig deep and get at the things that no one else sees. What does the person in front of you really think? How does this person really feel? The fake facade they put up for other people doesn’t fool you.

3. You feel more comfortable having a loose plan for things than you do completely winging it.

4. You can be both incredibly shy, quiet, and withdrawn, as well as charming, fun, and hilarious. It’s all about the situation, your mood and energy levels, but most importantly, the people you’re with.

5. When someone comes to you with a problem, you usually don’t give them advice or your opinion unless they ask. Instead, you ask them questions to help them better understand the situation and their own feelings about it. Sometimes you tell a story of a time when something similar happened to you, in the hope that they’ll draw their own lesson. You feel like you can usually see the path they should take, but you don’t want them to do it just because you told them to — you want it to be their decision.

6. You like being alone, but you can’t be alone for too long. Eventually you need to reunite with  your people. “Your people” are a handful of good friends who truly “get” you. Deep conversations with these people are priceless, and hanging out with them can actually boost your energy.

7. You’ve been known to suddenly cut people out of your life when they’ve hurt you one too many times. It’s not that you enjoy cutting people out, rather, you do this simply to protect yourself. Even though you may look like you have it together on the outside, you’re extremely sensitive inwardly, and you’re especially sensitive to other people’s words and actions.

8. Sometimes you try so hard to make other people happy that you forget to make yourself happy.

9. You often feel like you see precisely what someone else is feeling, and you believe you know what they need deep down. You’re not always right, but you tend to be more perceptive than most.

10. You feel like you’re destined for so much more than just dragging yourself to your 9-5 job to pay the bills. You want to help people and change the world — not just get a paycheck. The problem is you either don’t know what your “glorious purpose” is, or you have an inkling, but you don’t know how to achieve it.

11. You almost always have this sinking feeling like you could be doing better with your life. This results in you constantly have secret self-improvement projects going on, like learning how to cook healthy meals, setting better boundaries, or getting better at articulating yourself. Sometimes you push yourself too hard as you attempt to achieve your “perfect” life.

12. Sometimes you turn to people-pleasing to protect yourself. You’re sensitive, so you can get really bothered when someone criticizes you or is disappointed in you. They can’t criticize you if you make them happy.

13. You often immediately sense the mood of a room when you walk into it. Likewise, you often absorb the feelings of the people around you. If they’re excited, you get excited. If they’re anxious, you get anxious, too. You tend to gravitate toward calm, centered people so you don’t have to deal with as much emotional garbage.

14. You’re drawn to high-quality things, like good food, high-end clothes, and anything else that has good craftsmanship. As much as you hate to admit it, the way things look is important to you. You like being surrounded by beauty, and you tend to have sophisticated, refined tastes. But you’re a minimalist at heart. You’d rather have one or two really nice shirts than ten mediocre ones.

15. You care deeply about the people in your life, but they’ll probably never know just how much you care, because you keep your feelings mostly to yourself. You can have trouble articulating your emotions, even though you feel them intensely.

16. You’re usually thoughtful, conscientious, and considerate. Other people who are not as conscientious can seem callous and even cruel.

17. You love learning, especially when it comes to psychology, self-improvement, spirituality, and certain sciences.

18. When everyone else is gossiping, discussing celebs, or talking about other trivial things, you often find yourself thinking about outer space, time travel, human nature, the meaning of life, and other more epic topics. You rarely try to steer the conversation in that direction, though, because you don’t think other people will be interested.

19. You feel compelled to get things done. You often write to-do lists, and you enjoy checking things off them. If you don’t have a goal to work toward, after a while, you feel lost and bored.

20. When you’re passionate about something, it feels like nothing can stand in your way. The INFJ motto is, “The impossible takes just a little bit longer.”

21. Other people see you as wise, insightful, and almost spiritual. They often come to you for advice and emotional support. You relish your role as the “wise one,” and you like being needed. But sometimes it becomes too much. You’re an introvert, for crying out loud, and sometimes you just wish everyone would solve their own problems and leave you alone for a while.

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  • Ammar Helimi


  • Heidi

    Every. last. one. Nailed it.

  • Cornelia Andersson

    Right on spot in every way!

  • Karilisa

    Yep! Thank you for explaining myself to me 🙂

  • This describes me perfectly. I was cheering and nodding to every. Single. Point. I’m glad websites like these exist now.

  • njguy54

    Pretty much on point. The only difference in my case is #7. I’ve tended to stick with people much longer than I should, even after the relationship becomes unhealthy for the both of us.

    • IBikeNYC

      I’ve done both.

  • IBikeNYC

    Very much me, especially #14.

    I’d never thought to attribute these kinds of traits and habits to my introversion. This post is validating in so many ways. Thank you!

  • Janina Oakley

    This actually released tears. I am so glad this information is out there now; such a help for all of us who always knew we never “fit”, but never knew why. Thank you.

  • Lynda Carter

    #5 for sure, but all of them ring true!

  • Pratikshya Mishra

    very very true.. each and every single point…

  • Cactus Horizon

    I feel like this list reads like a horoscope and could almost match anyone……

  • Deepak

    Right till the last point. Can’t really understand why the world become so methodical now. Like every INFJ have these things in common now. But their tastes differ in some areas.

  • The emotions part seems off, in regards to not voicing them. I keep reading how infj is emotionally extroverted, wanting to talk about those things, to help others. I’m sure there’s a flipside, we are still introverts lol.

  • Agusta Fridfinnsdottir

    Description af ME <3

  • Lou

    #7 cutting people out of my life for my own protection…YES! I unfortunately am going through that now. It’s so painful, but I had to do it or I would wither up. Perfect list….all true!!

  • Vishal Bheeroo

    Enjoyed reading this post about different personality and many times, we have so many traits not just one!

  • Hazel Vu

    Every single point is like slashing through my mind and heart!! Especially #15 🙁 sad but true, i wonder if there is a way for us to overcome that…

  • Nehemiah Joel Williams

    This was amazingly well articulated and accurate on so many levels. Thanks for writing this!

  • Samantha Budhu

    Thank you, this describes me so accurately, no doubt about it (INFJ)

  • JBalogun

    This is so on point, chuckled to a few.

  • Fedor Amuricano

    Thats too much for a day

  • Darlene Reilley

    Yes! Some are scarily true…and others are just true. INFJ has positives and problems…just like everyone else. #9 is so right…and sometimes you realize things that other people don’t realize about themselves. Love the post!

  • Ann Roy

    I cried actual tears of happiness after reading this
    Now I know there are other people like me out there :”)
    thought I was the awkward and the odd one

  • Marie Nolan Liston

    Yes. Yes. Yes. Each of these are spot on. Thank you for making me not feel like the only one!

  • Number 14 was what decided this for me. And all this time I thought I was INFP as I don’t like to be “boxed in” by schedules!

    • Lauren Teresa Smith

      That’s understandable. I thought I was INFP too.

    • Transbutter

      14 did it for me too!

  • Nessie

    Spot on.

  • Alanna Jane

    Every. Single. One!

  • Janice Cochran

    This is actually spot on for me too. Every single one of them.

  • Lauren Teresa Smith

    Is it possible to have an INFJ childhood, INFP adulthood (to please others), but mostly being an INFJ? I’m learning though to accept and embrace the natural INFJ that I am creatively and uniquely no matter what people will say & try doing. We have a voice just as important as anyone else.

    • Olivia Johnson

      I think this is me as well.

      • LT

        Good to know.. sometimes I think I’m the only one who experiences this.

    • Jennifer

      I am an INTJ but when I was younger I acted like an INFJ because it was easier, and my parents tried to change me (become ESFJ).
      I was confused (it was unconscious), then I read about the types and discovered (not only by results along the 5 years) why I was getting so tired and disappointed.
      People wear social masks, and some of them forget to take them out. If you embrace who you’re , people will complain, but it’s your life and you have to be your best version. It’s the only way to do unique things.

  • 阿部ちゃんの妻です😘

    I’m supposed to be INFP and a strong Fi-Ne user but why all of this relates so much to me?

  • 阿部ちゃんの妻です😘

    I seriously think this was written by an INFP who were mistyped as INFJ. After all, INFP is commonly mistyped as INFJ

    • Hyeyun Han

      I was thinking the same thing haha I think this is more of an INF thing rather than INFJs in particular.. I’m and infp and I relate to most of it.

  • Ash

    This is so dead on!

  • Totally spot on!! I’m fully INFJ and this article just basically summed me up haha 😂

  • Kerri Jean

    Yes, yes, and yes.

  • gwenusian

    Can anyone here tell me what career paths they have settled into as I am so lost right now. I’m unhappy, nervous and angry with myself because I can’t find something that will work for me.

    • Graphic and Web Design and more recently just added on fullstack web development as well! If I weren’t doing those, I think I’d opt for Interior Design, or maybe something with Chemistry in use or fulltime blogging

    • Same.

      I always wanted to travel and then blog about it. A travel blogger! I’ve always thought that learning about how humans interact with one another, or learning about different cultures, etc… would be interesting and fun. I regret not taking up a Social Science degree. But, I’m sure I could never afford having a job like that. Being an adult with responsibilities is so unfair sometimes. Haha.

      I also wanted to always open up a bakery/coffee shop. I have all of these fun ideas in the back of my mind…stored away…just in case it should ever happen.

      Or…at one time, I thought that I’d like to become a writer. That is until my English II teacher told me that my writing was like “verbarrhea.” I never did finish that class.

      Ugh. INFJ’s can also be so indecisive. Am I right? 🙂

      • IBikeNYC

        Why do you think that English II teacher was right?????

      • Melinda Lindor

        Right, we are very indecisive but, you can do anything you want to do. Dream away. Only one life to live, you were put here to be happy. Think, “What would I love?” & get to it!

    • njguy54

      I started out in the ’80s as a a technical writer and advertising copywriter; if you’re interested in writing, those are obvious choices, though they don’t always pay well (unless you’re a freelancer, which has its own set of challenges). When the Web became a thing, I got into web design, and from there into other aspects of IT.

      As with writing, a lot of IT work gives you the opportunity to research, solve problems and be creative. Much of the work is collaborative, although much also allows you to work alone. There are many kinds of jobs in the IT realm, of which coding is just one. Organizations with strong IT components (and they are increasing every day) need business analysts and architects, tech writers, database and system administrators, information security specialists, data analysts, graphic designers, social media experts, user experience (UX) designers, testers, project managers, trainers and strategists. Aside from the scope and variety of work, IT is a growing field that pays very well.

    • Heidi Wright

      have just finished a psychology degree but now am looking into going into nutrition 🙂 also trying to start up a lifestyle blog talking about wellbeing and travel. I always doubt myself though and aren’t quite sure what my purpose is, don’t worry, the right thing might find you 🙂

    • Koby Duncan

      I was a nurse and got so emotionally burnt out. I didn’t realise at the time, but I was constantly absorbing other people’s energies and it got to me. I’m starting a graphic design course soon.

    • PatM

      I’m a graphic design too, Had a business for 25 years.
      I always feel comfortable around creative people, like I’m home.
      But I am also so, so practical, peace maker, hate conflict. I feel like I’m a contradiction.

      • You sound like me. I’m also both creative & practical ( & I hate conflict). I’m also a graphic & web designer.

        I can be so logical, but I’m also very much a feeling person. I’ve always felt like a contradiction. I’ve always known that I’m different.

    • Alpina88

      Journalism. It’s not always ideal as I do have to be “on” a lot of the time and speak to many people, but I also get to write and I enjoy that.

    • FRR III

      I am an infj and I have decided on nursing. After learning about infj’s I realized how well it fits my personality and probably why I gravitated towards this career. Nurses are patient advocates and something that makes an infj tick is advocating for people who can’t speak for themselves. I truly enjoy helping people on such an intimate level so it is a very saitisfying career. It’s been a lot of hard work but I’ve never minded working hard for something I want. Good luck in your endeveors!

    • Shar

      I went into Graphic Design in college and am now a UX Designer – marries my love of focusing on making great user/customer experiences and design 🙂

    • Melinda Lindor

      I’m a Registered Nurse! Big mistake! I’m going into coaching because I love the work, but what am I suppose to do on my off days 😐.

      • Chris

        Why do you say it’s a big mistake? I’m genuinely curious.

    • Charlie Harwood

      i’m training to be a midwife 🙂

    • karen w

      I started out in counselling and burned out after about 5 years. I wasn’t big on self-care back then. I have just trained as a wellness coach and it is similar enough to counselling but has a definite beginning and end (which INFJs also like). My own journey to self-care took me on a path to helping others.

    • Lily

      I’m still in high school but I’m really interested in Sciences like psychology and also community service/health jobs where i can help others. I think they’d be such fulfilling jobs

    • Clyde Seeger

      Tarot Card reader.

    • Claire Castles

      I work in Student Support in Higher Education. I’m not a counsellor but I support students 1:1 with complex personal circumstances to get the support they need to help them engage with their course. Particular focus on students from backgrounds who are more likely to face barriers entering and staying at University. I also do some project work/research on ways to make student experience more fair and inclusive.I really enjoy helping people 1:1 but the “big picture” part of my job is really what drives me. That’s how I know I’m an INFJ. I become extremely frustrated when I see problems and injustices in systems which I feel powerless to change.

  • lahav calev

    Good article, thank you. I have difficulty’s finding a therapist who will “dig” me. Maybe The INFJ is causing that ? I’m not sure. Maybe it’s just me. Need to keep on searching..

    • LT

      Same here! I’m told to have a complex or sporadic mind.

  • Olivia Johnson

    Spot on.

  • Milka

    So spot on,


    Exactly the way I think👏 thanks , before I used 2 ask myself why I m so different?is it just me? Nd many questions but now I now😊

  • Yes! Almost everyone of these applies to me. The first one, really hit home.

  • Sally Marie

    Most accurate list ever, every single item.

  • Heidi Wright

    I have just finished a psychology degree but now am looking into going into nutrition 🙂 also trying to start up a lifestyle blog talking about wellbeing and travel. I always doubt myself though and aren’t quite sure what my purpose is, don’t worry, the right thing might find you 🙂

  • Kay Dirling

    So much truth. #11 and #15 in particular hit close to home.

  • Shauna

    This was so relatable that I actually almost cried. It’s like I finally feel like there’s a definition for the way that I am, and it’s awesome to know that I’m not the only one.

  • Nessie

    Many if not most of these characteristics are shared by other introverted personalities as well. That’s one more reason why people should be very careful not to mistype themselves in a moment of ‘enthusiasm’.

  • Nessie

    People quit believing you’re the ‘only one’ who does this and that..seriously that sounds pretty arrogant and ridiculous. There are 7+ billions of people in the world..surely you don’t all think that you’re so ‘rare’ and ‘special’ that nobody else shares something you do, right?

  • Michelle Winifred

    Wow. This is totally me. And it feels good to know that I’m not alone. I thought I was a total weirdo who would never fit in anywhere 😅 Thank you so much for this post!!

  • Rozarrianne

    I am an INFJ and none of these are wrong.

  • Eliz Matez

    The descriptions so totally match my personality!
    To even find #18 and #10 on the list surprised me, though 🙂

  • vanessa

    As an INFJ I felt all of these signs. I would often question myself, “why are they talking so much like love relations, current happenings around them and trivial topics that’s how a lot of my friends get along so well, it’s great how they can talk for hours like that but most of what they talk about doesn’t pique my interest at all. What I wanted is a real talk about art, life, and how the world works but majority of my friends doesn’t get what I talk about or is not interested because it’s too deep and they just want a casual talk. So I look like a fish out of water most of the time. I wish I can talk like them.

    • Chris

      You just need to find people with inclinations which gravitate them away from mundane conversation. Biggest mistake an INFJ can make is wishing that they weren’t themselves. Firstly it isn’t possible, and secondly our personality type is incredibly unique. Be proud of who you are.

  • tinykingkong

    i think i will die without knowing my type

  • Yrwyfyn Ddimbyd

    OMG get out of my head!!!

  • Indrani

    I can’t describe how I’m feeling. It’s almost as if someone just read all the things that go on in my head.

  • Jhana Snowden

    I never faked anything nor do I write to-do-lists. Everything else completes the sunny side of my INFJ status, however, I’m missing all of the shady sides put into print here.

  • Kady

    I test right on the line between infp and infj. This list is me, every one.
    Then I read the comment by someone who thinks that this lIst actually describes infp. Oh brother. The mystery continues.

  • Monsieur Jonathan Augustin

    I thought the Myer-Briggs test was just some pseudo-intellectual horoscope, but this is pretty spot on! Like REALLY accurate!

  • lola

    yes, yes, yes to each one!!!!!! Esp today, #21. Please, people figure your stuff out yourselves!!

  • Um. Is it cos I took the test? That usually tells me that I’m INFJ.

  • Chris

    Or it describes you to an F, rather. 😉

  • Yep I’m an INFJ for sure now.

  • Adam Broadbent

    I too relate to both INFP and INFJ traits and can type as both. These types are both quite close too each other and all NF’s have common similarities and get on well together.
    INFP tends to be more laid back, open with ideas and a dreamer even a little childlike sometimes. Whereas INFJ is more focussed, outwardly closed and sensitive / thoughtful more business-like.
    This is what i see in others and myself anyway 😊

  • Preeti Priya

    Omfg!!!! This is me…

  • Transbutter

    Whoa this scared the crap out of me. How do you know me so well??

  • Lily

    Everyone of these describes me perfectly!!

  • Lily

    haha this is so weird but i have really similar interests as you, i really like animals, enjoy sciences a lot and i really like dancing. Must be INFJs

  • James Bondish

    Wow. I’m exactly this.

  • Clyde Seeger

    I tested out as an INFJ and yes, all of these points rang true with me as well. But I can’t help but think that they are general and vague enough that most anyone would agree that these described them as well.

    Darren Brown did an experiment where he handed a group an astrological reading that was supposedly customized for each person and were asked to read theirs and report back how correct it was. All came back saying it was 100% spot on and remarkably insightful it was so accurate. But there was not astrological chart readings. He just made up a bunch of bull, stuff that people like to hear about themselves and there was only one version. Everybody got the same “reading”.

    I once did a Tarot card reading for someone without knowing dick about Tarot card readings other than a friend gave me a reading over the phone one time. To be fair, I did know about cold reading and how that’s pulled off and that’s really all Tarot card reading is.

    I have a deck of Tarot cards, which is kind of a must, and from there I just winged it. I don’t know how they’re drawn or arranged or any of that stuff, but neither did the chick who was getting the reading, also a big plus.

    I arranged the cards in a cross pattern and began lifting the cards one at a time and whatever the picture was on the card I would say “Oh, this is the so and so card and it generally means such and such.” And those descriptions got better and more meaningful as we went on because she was giving me more information with each new card about was going on her life. Misses you just brush off and hits you really emphasize.

    She was astounded that I revealed so much about her and those in her life and what her concerns were etc. I was astounded that I pulled it off. It was easy.

    Yes, I did tell her when it was over that I had made it all up and didn’t know anything about Tarot cards. She didn’t believe me.

  • Thi Nguyễn

    who are you? how can u draw everything out while i can’t…

  • Esin Eyilik Muftuoglu

    One of the most accurate description on INFJ personality. Congrats!

  • Brandi Chammartin

    Perfect! I just wish I could find others INFJs and we could become great friends! Where are we all hiding??? 😊

  • Jackie P

    21 out 21 lol

  • This is 100% exactly the ENFJ. I related to absolutely every single item on this list except we aren’t shy and we don’t have trouble articulating our feelings. The INFJ is our kindred spirit… our slightly less outgoing cousin.

  • Tea

    This is creepy. Like, incredibly creepy. The part about self-improvement especially because I can’t remember a time in my life when I didn’t have a self-evolving project. A day without my checklist is a day unfulfilled. I just want to be the ideal.

  • Ashley Christa

    I thought I was INFP but when I read this I was getting chills because every one of these described me and I never realized it. I’m just like “wtf yes” when I read every one.