BIG ANNOUNCEMENT! We’re starting a new website just for highly sensitive people — called Highly Sensitive Refuge — and we need your help. We’re looking for high-quality, relatable writing about being highly sensitive. If you’d like to submit an article to our new site, follow the guidelines on this page, but focus your piece on being an HSP. Then, share your article as an editable Google doc with submissionsHSR@gmail.com.
Note: We’re still looking for submissions for this website, too! If you want to submit to Introvert, Dear, use the regular ‘ole submissionsID@gmail.com address.
Write for Introvert, Dear
Before you submit, please run through this checklist. Have you…
- Added your name, email address, and 3-5 sentence bio to the top of your post? You can also include a link to your website or social media profiles (optional).
- Created a Gravatar profile? The email address you provide us should match the email address associated with your Gravatar account.
- Turned your post into an editable Google Doc?
If so, you’re ready to submit!
Please share your Google Doc with submissionsID@gmail.com.
These are some ideas for writing topics, however, we accept articles that are not about these topics, too:
1. An introvert’s nightmare
Describe a time that was an absolute nightmare for you as an introvert or HSP. Perhaps it was a wild party, a weekend stuck with relatives with no escape, or an uncomfortable situation at work. Why was that situation so difficult for you? How did you cope with it? What do you wish the people involved knew about you as an introvert or HSP that you couldn’t explain at the time?
2. If you could change one thing…
Often, it seems like we’re living in an extrovert’s world. Our schools, workplaces, and social norms favor extroverts. If you could change one thing about your workplace, your school, an institution, a public space, or a social norm — to make it better for introverts — what would you change? Why would you make this change? How would it help introverts (or HSPs)?
3. An open letter to your coworkers or boss
We all wish our coworkers understood us better, but often, we don’t get time to sit down and explain our values and needs. Write an open letter to your coworkers or boss. Explain what you need from them to do your best work as an introvert (peace and quiet, time to mentally prepare for being “on,” etc.). Describe what you struggle with, and how they could help. Clear up any misunderstandings they have about you.
4. Confessions of an introvert (or HSP, or INFP, etc.)
Write a very personal list of things you wish others knew about you as an introvert. These are things you usually don’t say out loud. Here’s an example.
5. The struggles of an introverted (or highly sensitive) parent
If you’re an introverted parent, what are some of the struggles you face? Do you think it’s harder for introverts to cope with parenting than it is for extroverts? Why or why not? What are your best go-to coping strategies? Do introverts have any advantages when it comes to parenting that extroverts don’t have?
6. An aspect of your introversion
Explore an aspect of your introversion, for example, your penchant for overthinking, dislike of small talk, tendency to go quiet in groups, etc. How has this aspect been troublesome for you? Are there times it has been a strength? What do you wish people understood about this part of your personality?
7. Discovering your introversion
How did you learn that you’re an introvert (or an HSP, INFJ, etc.)? Did it change your life in some way? Did it help you make sense of certain things you struggled with? Why do you think it’s important for people to understand their temperament?
8. Solve an introvert (or HSP, or INFP, etc…) problem
What is one aspect of your introverted or highly sensitive nature (or personality type) that you used to really struggle with? For example, overthinking, not speaking up for your needs, getting into one-sided relationships, etc. How did you start to think about this problem differently? What did you do to solve it? And how did your life change when you solved it? Here’s a great example of this prompt, and here’s another one.
9. Personality type
We’re always looking for articles about all the introverted Myers-Briggs personality types. But right now, we especially need articles about ISFJs, ISTJs, ISFPs, ISTPs, and INTPs. Check out two great examples of personality type articles here and here.
Frequently Asked Questions
What makes a strong article?
The most popular articles on Introvert, Dear have these things in common:
- They are deeply honest and personal. They don’t dance around the details or include vague references to the author’s experiences. They include strong examples and paint a vivid picture that other introverts can relate to.
- They dig beneath the surface. The advice isn’t oversimplified or clichéd; it’s insightful, empowering readers to understand their introverted nature on a deeper level.
- The article builds to a clear message/lesson for readers, something that might evoke an “aha!” moment for them.
- When applicable, they’re practical and actionable. Not all articles need a list of things to do — in fact, some are more powerful without one. But when the topic warrants clear action steps, the article delivers.
- They have a strong, clear connection to introversion, high sensitivity, or personality type.
- They avoid stereotypes and blanket statements about introverts.
Can I republish my submission on my own website?
Absolutely! We also accept submissions that were previously published on your own blog. However, if we run your article on Introvert Dear, we retain the rights to that content, which means we ask that you not republish your article through, say, a Huffington Post or Forbes blogger account or another major website.
Do you accept article pitches?
We don’t. It’s really important for us to see the article in full — so we can assess the quality of writing and value to our readers — before we agree to publish it.
Do you publish sponsored posts?
No. We’ve found that paid posts generally don’t provide a lot of value to our readers. We want to keep the focus on authentically exploring the introvert’s experience, as well as providing expert advice.
How long should my article be?
Aim for 900 to 1,100 words.
Can I include links within the piece?
Sure! Please include links that will be helpful and relevant for the reader — they can be to appropriate posts on your site or on any other news site or blog. When you link to other posts on Introvert, Dear, that makes us happy. No affiliate or paid links.
Are there any style guidelines I should keep in mind?
Yes! They are:
- Where possible, include numbered lists, bullets, and subheadings.
- Remember that for online writing, clarity and easy reading are key.
- Use casual, everyday words rather than academic or formal language. Avoid overly promotional language.
- When applicable, include expert advice. Link to a study or expert source to help prove your point.
- We allow the use of “they” as a singular, gender-neutral pronoun.
- We spell “extrovert” and “extroversion” with an “o” not an “a.” Although both spellings are correct, “extravert” is generally used in the literature of psychology, while “extrovert” is the most prominent spelling in the United States today and the principal spelling in standard dictionaries.
- Because we’re based in the U.S., we use American spellings (for example, “color” instead of “colour”).
- Make sure you understand our definition of an introvert: someone who prefers a low-key, low-stimulus environment.
Are there certain topics you avoid?
Yep. We generally reject pieces that give oversimplified or generic advice. Make sure your article really provides value to the reader; you could do this by sharing your personal insights, citing studies/research, or providing expert advice.
Should I write a headline?
Please do! We reserve the right to tweak it for SEO, style, or just to make it more attention-grabbing. But if you want to suggest one, that makes our job easier.
Will you edit my post?
We’ll edit for content and clarity, doing our best to preserve your voice. You’ll be able to see our edits in your Google Doc.
What should I write for my author bio?
Author bios can be fun and casual, or they can showcase what makes you an expert in your field. To get a better sense of what to write, check out some of the author bios on this site. Aim for 3-5 sentences.
What about my headshot?
Our system uses your email to grab your headshot from Gravatar, so make sure your photo is uploaded there. Important: Make sure the email address you give us is the same address associated with your Gravatar account. Otherwise we won’t be able to access your photo.
Do you pay for submissions?
We’re a growing organization with a limited budget, so unfortunately, we can’t pay for one-off submissions. However, we see about one million page views a month and have over a quarter million followers on social media. Feedspot named us the number one publication for introverts on the web! So, publishing an article on our site is a great way to start building up your name as a writer or get exposure for your book, business, or website. It’s also an opportunity to make your voice heard and connect with other introverts.
We’re excited to now be offering some pay to our most dedicated writers. After three successful article submissions, you can request to become a regular contributor. Regular contributors are top-notch writers who submit an article about once a month and are paid $40/article. We know that doesn’t quite equal all the blood, sweat, and tears our amazing writers put into their pieces, but we hope that as we continue to grow, we’ll be able to offer even more.
Will you respond to my submission?
We will email you if we plan to publish it. Unfortunately, because we have a small editorial team, we cannot reply to every submission. We do not reply if we don’t plan to run the article. Please know that that it can take up to two weeks to review your submission; if you have not gotten a reply within four weeks, you can assume that it has not been accepted.
If we turn down your article, please don’t take it to mean that your story doesn’t have value. One day, we hope to have a spot on the site for every article we receive.
What should I do after my article is published?
Share it with everyone! Sharing your article helps Introvert, Dear grow. Also, when it runs, we hope you’ll be active in the comments, responding to readers’ questions or thoughts.
We look forward to your contribution!