5 Songs You’ll Relate to as an Introvert
As an introvert, these songs make me feel seen, understood, and less alone in this extroverted world.
Music is a powerful form of storytelling that can make us feel an array of emotions, from absolute happiness to devastating sadness. No matter who you are — introvert or extrovert — there is a guarantee that you can find a song you can relate to on a personal level.
In this list, I present five songs that truly speak to the introverted part of me, the part that would rather stay home on a Friday night than go to the “big party” everyone’s going to, the part that tends to overthink most of the things I do and say, and that part that desperately needs to be alone after spending too much time socializing with people. They make me feel seen, understood, and less alone in this world, and I hope that they make you feel the same way. (Fun fact: Many musical artists are introverts, and I wonder if some of the below are, too.)
5 Songs You’ll Relate to as an Introvert
1. Me, Myself and I – Beyoncé
Let’s start this with a big one and what musical artist is bigger than Beyoncé, the Queen Bey herself? Me, Myself and I is a song about a woman who gets cheated on. As a result, she learns to set better personal boundaries for herself (which can be tough for introverts) and gains a stronger sense of self-reliance and independence.
This song deals with the horrible reality of heartbreak and betrayal and how a situation like that can make you question everything about yourself, including your intelligence and self-worth. But, ultimately, the message of the song is an empowering one. The narrator understands that there is always the possibility that people might disappoint us, which is why it’s important for us to love ourselves and learn how to be our own best friend.
As an introvert, I’ve learned this lesson many times in the past. We introverts tend to keep a very small group of close personal relationships, people who “get” us. So when one of them disappoints us, it can be absolutely devastating. But instead of closing ourselves completely to other people, there’s a lesson we can take away from the situation. In the end, we will always have ourselves — and no one can take that away from us.
The most relatable lyrics from the song:
It took me some time but now I moved on
Because I realized I got
Me, myself and I
That’s all I got in the end
That’s what I found out
And it ain’t no need to cry
I took a vow that from now on
I’m gon’ be my own best friend
2. i need to be alone. – girl in red
You might not have heard about girl in red before, but this Norwegian indie sensation has been taking the music world by storm in the last couple of years. Her latest album even managed to get a shout-out from Taylor Swift. Her song Serotonin, where she talks candidly about depression and mental health struggles, was met with critical praise when it was released back in March 2021.
But the song I want to highlight in this article is i need to be alone., which was released in 2019. To me, this song perfectly captures how it feels to have an “introvert hangover.” For those of you who might not know, it’s the burnout feeling introverts get after being overstimulated, or socializing, too much. Signs you may have an introvert hangover include feelings of irritability, sadness, and hopelessness. You suddenly can’t think straight — everything gets on your nerves, and you have an intense urge to be alone.
When I get hit by one of these horrible introvert hangovers, all I want to do is scream and run away so I can, indeed, be alone. And you get the sense that is exactly the feeling the musical artist was trying to convey when she recorded this song.
So next time you go through something like that — whether it’s an introvert hangover or not — instead of giving yourself a hard time, listen to this song. And remember that you are not “weird” or “abnormal” — a lot of other people out there have gone through the exact same thing. It can be hard, but they have survived those situations, and so will you.
The most relatable lyrics from the song:
I’m falling out of conversations
I can’t pay attention
Repeat the question
I need to be alone
Or I’m gonna lose my shit…
It’s getting harder to exist
I don’t want to feel like this
3. On My Own – Tessa Violet
I absolutely love this song because I can relate to almost everything that is covered in it. In On My Own, Tessa Violet sings about her desire to have a group of people who really know her and who she can call “home.” But building these kinds of relationships is hard for her because she is also quite comfortable on her own. This is a contradiction that I’m sure most introverts can relate to.
We strive for deep connections, but finding people with whom we can have those kinds of relationships is difficult because we also enjoy spending time alone. In order to find the kind of people we can call “home,” we have to put ourselves in situations that maybe we’re not fond of, like going to parties or talking to strangers. These kinds of situations can make us feel uncomfortable, anxious, and maybe even make us doubt ourselves. That is why the alternative (being on our own) can be much more appealing.
But we cannot go through life completely alone — we also need people in our lives who love and accept us. And in order to find them, we have to get out of our comfort zone once in a while. It can be uncomfortable, but sometimes the rewards can be worth it.
The most relatable lyrics from the song:
I put my foot in my mouth again
I hope they still want to be my friends
I got desirable qualities
If you don’t mind my obsessing with me…
I wanna people that I can call home
But why do the work when I’m doing just
Fine all on my own?…
And I don’t mind being alone
I’m doing fine me on my own
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4. Lonely – Hayleau
Lonely by Hayleau is a song about a woman who is approached by a man who thinks that she is lonely because she is on her own. However, she clarifies that just because she is alone doesn’t mean that she is lonely. This is something that I’m sure has happened to a lot of introverts out there. We sometimes want to go out alone, but we are discouraged by how society sees us when we are solo in public.
It has been so normalized by our culture that people who do things — like eat by themselves or go to the movies alone — are pathetic losers who have no one in their lives. But this isn’t true, of course. We want to go alone because we want to go alone. Yet we are met with pitiful looks and people who want to “save” us from being by ourselves. Their intentions might be good, but sometimes they end up doing more harm than good because they make us feel self-conscious and insecure.
The most relatable lyrics from the song:
I know that you think that I’m lonely
I’m not trying to be your homie
Honey, don’t act like you know me…
I’m not looking for somebody to get close to
Boy, I mean it, stop believing that I want you
5. Hell Nos and Headphones – Hailee Steinfeld
Described as an “anti-party anthem”, Hailee Steinfeld’s Hell Nos and Headphones tells the story of a girl who is uncomfortable at a party and all she wants to do is get out of there. Previously, I mentioned that sometimes it’s okay for us introverts to get out of our comfort zone and put ourselves out there. But it’s also totally fine to remove ourselves from a situation that is making us uncomfortable beyond our accepted levels. We have to know what our limits are and do the best for our mental health, without caring what other people might think or say.
In the song, everyone at the party is having fun, drinking, doing drugs, and having make-out sessions… but the narrator clearly feels uncomfortable and decides to leave without caring what anyone thinks or says. She feels pressured to stay and “have fun,” but ultimately, she does what’s best for her.
That is a lesson that I’m sure many introverts have learned. We sometimes do things that we think we “have” to do, but we end up feeling miserable. However, it’s okay to know our limits and do what’s best for us. If that means leaving a party early because you don’t feel comfortable, then go ahead and do it.
The most relatable lyrics from the song:
Seems like everybody here
Is speaking different languages…
Don’t want another drink
I just, just wanna be alone
No, I don’t care ‘bout what you think
I’m going home (I’m going home)
Yeah, I’ll stick with hell no’s and headphones
Introverts, what are some of your favorite songs that you relate to? Let me know in the comments below. 
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