Sometimes life can be very difficult. But remember, my INFJ friends, that growth can only occur where there has been pain.
I broke down in tears in the break room. As an introvert, I was so uncomfortable in my job.
My INFJ personality type describes me perfectly and I only wish I could have discovered that I wasn’t alone a lot sooner.
Although INFPs and ISFPs appear to be quite similar—they both have artistic preferences and strong values—they see the world quite differently.
INFJs end up feeling lonely, wishing we had people who understood our special kind of weirdness.
1. You have higher productivity levels.
1. Set boundaries.
As an introvert, I used to think I wasn’t ready to navigate the corporate world.
As INFJs, we hold friendships very dear to our hearts. Perhaps it is because we feel so disconnected from the world.
It’s not uncommon for quiet introverts to be labeled as rude—or worse—even though we’re not trying to be.
I was attempting to suppress my emotions. Up until this moment, I had thought that an intelligent person should not—or cannot—be a sensitive person.
1. Being told to relax or cheer up when you already feel great.
When you tell a highly sensitive person that they’re “too sensitive,” you’re degrading an aspect of their essential self.
By prioritizing social skills, I was able to build a solid professional network, make more friends, and deepen my existing relationships.
Last month, I got to talk with Colin DeYoung, a psychology professor, about what makes someone an introvert.
There’s a little voice in my head. It whispers to me that it’s abnormal that I like to spend so much time by myself.
I unconsciously developed a set of behaviors—social armor—which helped me cope with my anxiety as an introvert.
It’s not uncommon for INFPs to mistype as INFJs, and vice versa.
One of my biggest regrets about the past decade of my life is that I didn’t make more of an effort to make friends of my own.
1. Don’t ever force yourself to be someone you’re not.
German weddings are like marathons, and as an introvert, I’m a lowly sprinter who can’t keep up.
Rent day is too much, too fast, and too loud.
How many times have you heard this annoying and utterly frustrating question: “Why are you so quiet?”
Maybe you’re scared like I was when I was. Maybe the thought of extracurriculars, crowded football games, and living with a roommate has you worried.
If you want to get better at pleasing people, check out these people-pleasing tips and learn how to get the least out of your life.
Many HSPs and introverts struggle with people-pleasing tendencies. But we simply cannot be in charge of everyone else’s emotions.