5 Tips for Dating an Extrovert (as an Introvert)
When dating an extrovert, instead of feeling like you always have to keep up with them, invite them to slow down with you.
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When dating an extrovert, instead of feeling like you always have to keep up with them, invite them to slow down with you.
As an introvert, knowing the “why” behind your boundaries — like needing to stay in on Friday night so you have energy for the weekend — is key.
When you’re overstimulated, find a mini-escape, like going out to your car for something you “forgot.”
In a society that caters to extroverts, it’s up to us introverts to cultivate rituals in our lives that safeguard our spirit.
We internalize this message that something is “wrong” with us for not being more social, and we try to be more like “them” – extroverts.
Solo dates will give you the alone time you need — and when you’re reunited with your partner, you’ll both benefit.
You’re not alone in feeling depleted as an introverted parent — but taking care of yourself is taking care of your kids, and everyone will be better off for it.
As an introvert, when I “go to bed” early, it’s the solitude I need almost more than the actual sleep.
No, nap time does not count as alone time: You’re not alone just because the other person happens to be sleeping.