July Letter from the Editor


Jenn Granneman, founder of Introvert, Dear

Jenn Granneman, founder of Introvert, Dear

Hey everyone,

Has this ever happened to you? You’re rolling through life just fine, then BAM, something happens that reminds you of your introversion and/or highly sensitive nature. That’s what happened to me this week.

Let me explain. This Minnesota girl has flown the coop to San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. I’ll be living here for the next two months with my boyfriend. He’s taking a Spanish language class here (he travels in Latin America and wants to improve his Spanish), and as a teacher who has summers off, I went along for the ride.

Our selfie in the Palacio de Bellas Artes in Mexico City, after checking out some of Diego Rivera's murals

Our selfie in the Palacio de Bellas Artes in Mexico City, after checking out Diego Rivera’s murals

Mexico is lovely. (Shout out to any of our Mexican readers!) Everyone I’ve met here has been great, and they’ve graciously suffered through my gringa Spanish.

But there’s a downside to all this fun and excitement: being in a new environment takes a toll on my sensitive system. The change in altitude, different food, and new sights and sounds are things I’m having to adjust to. Finding my way around the city, and solving simple problems like where can I buy yogurt, drain my mental energy. I want to be that person who embraces every street taco and glosses over minor inconveniences all in the name of adventure, but, let’s face it, I’m not. As with everything in life—as an introvert, a highly sensitive person, and an INFJ personality type—I’m cautious and I need plenty of time to adjust to change.

I'm parked at the downtown Starbucks, editing articles for Introvert, Dear. Just like in the U.S., Starbucks employees can't seem to get my name right. I love it.

I’m parked at the downtown Starbucks almost every day, editing articles for Introvert, Dear. Just like in the U.S., Starbucks employees can’t seem to get my name right. I love it.

The good news: we’ve been here for a week and a half, and I’m already starting to notice my body and brain settling down. Give me another week, and I’ll probably be completely adjusted. Another perk—my boyfriend and I know very few people here, so we get plenty of introvert time.

Side note: if anyone lives in or near San Miguel de Allende and would like to meet for coffee, email me at jenn@introvertdear.com. I’d love to meet you. We’ll have a nice calm chat, introvert style.

Anyway, in other news, our article themes for July are out. Because Introvert, Dear is a community for introverts and highly sensitive people, we feature your stories and insight. If you’d like to write for us, check out our themes and writer’s guidelines here.

Finally, I want to say thank you to our July Patreon sponsors. Our sponsors aren’t big corporations—they’re readers like you. With their support, we’ve been able to run monthly Facebook ads to reach more introverts and purchase some higher quality photos that reflect the diverse nature of our audience. You can see their names here.

Quietly yours,

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P.S. If you’re wondering why there was no Letter from the Editor in June, I decided to skip last month so I could make subsequent Letters from the Editor come out at the beginning of the month, not the end of it. Thanks, Type A brain!


  • Be gentle on yourself Jenn. I understand how new details make your mind and spirit extra sensitive. Thinking of you. Enjoy yourself. 🙂

    • Jenn Granneman says:

      Thanks Brenda. 🙂 That’s sweet of you to say. And you’re totally right about being gentle on myself. Good advice. 🙂

  • Ruth Lopez says:

    I feel I know exactly what you mean, as I experience this each year when I volunteer overseas with 14 other volunteers, often strangers, who work, eat, play, and room together for up to two weeks. It’s a fantastic, immersive, rewarding experience, building homes side by side with families who often speak a different language. But some cultures are more extroverted, or have certain expectations for women, that causes confusion when they first meet me (I’m an INTJ). I usually need to find different ways to communicate, “Yes, I like you and enjoy being here. I just need to be alone and quiet sometimes.” I’ve learned to carve out time throughout the day, for quiet and solitude, even if it means sitting out certain social events, no apologies. I’ve noticed that other introvert’s who don’t, tend to get sick after about a week. I believe it’s really important for introverts to honor their need to rejuvenate in solitude, no apologies.

    • Jenn Granneman says:

      Hi Ruth, thanks for your thoughtful comment. I can imagine that being with a group of strangers, practically side-by-side for weeks, would become exhausting! I respect that you volunteer every year, even though it can be challenging for your introverted temperament. And what you said about taking time for yourself—that’s great advice. Very smart. Keep it up.

  • Ezra says:

    I love San Miguel. I was there 6 years ago and I want to go back someday! I spent plenty of time in that Starbucks too…

    • Jenn Granneman says:

      Nice! This Starbucks is a pretty hopping place. (I’m there right now!) There are a lot of other cool coffee shops in San Miguel too, which I’ve visited, but I come here a lot because it’s close to my apartment. Hopefully you can make a trip to San Miguel again sometime soon.

  • Merf56 says:

    My husband and I are both INFJs.
    We joined the Peace Corps out of college and went to the Philippines a couple of decades ago. It was hard even though we both love traveling and new cultures etc. People who know us well thought we were nuts as heavy duty introverts to do such a ‘radical’ thing but we managed to find small pockets of alone time and used them to recharge just like you are doing in Mexico.
    The massive benefits far outweighed some of the massive overstimulation and stress of people constantly wanted to talk to us, invite us for meals etc. though there were plenty of days it did not feel that was so!!
    We both feel like it gave us a reserve of resilience we might never have developed otherwise. I hope you have a wonderful time and find a similar benefit!

    • Jenn Granneman says:

      What an incredible experience! Isn’t it funny that the things that challenge us can ultimately be our best teachers? Thank you for sharing your experience and for your kind words about my site. 🙂

  • Jenn! Former Minnesotan here (and INFP)! I actually founded my travel business specifically to introverts in order to make travel more comfortable and less-stressful for us. I can understand your discomfort and I know you’ll acclimate to your new surroundings in no time! Enjoy your new (temporary) home 🙂

    • Jenn Granneman says:

      Hi Jacob! Nice to “meet” a fellow Minnesotan. A travel business for introverts? I like the sound of that! Have you checked out Sacred Introvert? The creator, Lisa Avebury, is doing something similar. Wishing you the best.

  • chaplynn03 says:

    As an INFP I get it totally! A friend was in Mexico for about a year and she said that the difference in privacy (or the lack in Mexican culture) was draining. You remind too of a time when I went with friends from the South side of Chicago to the North side, supposedly a safer place. The students on bikes and people darting here and there had me shaking and eager to get home. I’m glad you’ve found places to chill.

    I’m just finding lovely pages such as Introvert, Dear and others for HSPs, which is also new to me… the concept not the reality. What a relief to learn that once more I’m not alone.

    • Jenn Granneman says:

      Hi Lynn! Thanks for your kind words about my site. I am lucky enough to have some space of my own. If I didn’t have that, I don’t know what I’d do! I can relate to your story about Chicago. Busy streets make me want to head for my own home too. Take care. 🙂