4 Reasons Why INFJs and INTPs Are Highly Compatible with Each Other

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On the surface, the INFJ and INTP personality types may look very different. INTPs are often characterized as “the inventor” type. Albert Einstein is an example of a famous INTP. INFJs are often called “the counselor” type and are represented by famous historical figures such as Nelson Mandela. While it may seem like Albert Einstein and Nelson Mandela are drastically different people, if their type analysis is true, these world-changing men have a lot more in common than many would think.

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As an INFJ personality type, I really enjoy spending time with INTPs. I appreciate their intellect, their thoughtful insight, and their obscure sense of humor. More so than with any other type, the INTP is the one that I feel I can examine the mysteries of the universe with one minute, and be on the floor laughing over a silly YouTube video the next.

INFJs and INTPs actually have a lot in common. In fact, according to this article by Dr. A.J. Drenth of Personality Junkie, INFJs and INTPs are sometimes called “the golden pair.” These two types have the potential to be highly compatible in both friendships and romantic relationships.

Here are four reasons why INFJs and INTPs are highly compatible as friends and partners:

1. We’re both introverted intuitive personality types.

Since both types are introverted and intuitive, they often enjoy many of the same things. They like in-depth, one-on-one discussions, examining theories and ideas, and learning new things. Both personality types have deep and colorful inner worlds, but as introverts, it can take them a while to share their inner world with others. However, because of their commonalities, they usually find it easy to reach the comfort level required to share a deeper part of their personalities with one another.

INTP personality types seek mental stimulation from friends and partners. This type can get bored easily by people who don’t challenge them, which INFJs are happy to do. INFJs seek friends and partners who fully appreciate them in an authentic and meaningful way. They’re drawn to the INTP’s constant search for understanding and meaning. Their intuitive natures allow them to discuss abstractions and ideas for hours that may bore other people.

2. We share the same judging functions.

INFJs and INTPs share the same thinking and feeling functions, also called “judging” functions. Judging functions reflect how the brain makes decisions and draws conclusions. INFJs have Extroverted Feeling (Fe) as their auxiliary (or secondary) function, and INTPs have Fe as their inferior (or fourth) function. INTPs have Introverted Thinking (Ti) as their dominant (or first) function, and INFJs have Ti as their tertiary (or third) function. The table below shows what the function stack for each type looks like.

INFJs have stronger use of Fe since it is higher in their function stack. Likewise, INTPs have stronger use of Ti. However, both types use both functions and value being able to learn and develop their weaker functions by exercising them with their INFJ or INTP friend or partner. The INFJ is often in awe of how well the INTP uses Ti, and INTPs feel the same way about Fe in INFJs. You can read a deeper analysis of how INFJs use each of their cognitive functions here.

3. We’re drawn to our opposing perceiving functions.

INFJs and INTPs have different intuitive and sensing functions, also called “perceiving” functions. INFJs rely on Introverted Intuition (Ni), while INTPs use Extroverted Intuition (Ne). While neither are sensing types, INFJs have a preference for Extroverted Sensing (Se), and INTPs prefer Introverted Sensing (Si). Both types are intrigued by how the other uses their perceiving functions, which seems so foreign from their own way of taking in information. In mature and healthy INFJs and INTPs, rather than cause conflict, this is part of what draws them to each other.

Outside of the cognitive functions, INFJs and INTPs are attracted to each others’ general personality traits. According to Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, “INTPs are drawn to INFJs because of their warmth, integrity, and emotional availability. INFJs are often attracted to the intelligence, dry sense of humor, and quiet confidence of INTPs. They admire their partner’s independence and find their honesty refreshing.”

4. There are not a lot of us in the world.

Both INFJ and INTP personality types are rare. Combined, they make up under 5 percent of the population. It’s nearly as rare for an INFJ to meet an INTP as it is for an INFJ to meet someone of their same personality type. When these two introverted intuitives do come across one another, it can feel like they’ve met a unicorn. There is someone else who seems to understand them on a deeper level, yet there is still a bit of mystery to discover.

Do you have INFJ or INTP friends or partners? Share your experiences with these personality types in the comments.

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  • Beth Holmes says:

    I’m an INFJ married to an INTP — for 29 years now. It’s working well for us — I need more social interaction with other people than he does but that’s about it.

    • Isabel Eljaiek says:

      I’m an INFJ also married to INTP– we’ll be married for one year in October. This sounds like us too.

  • disqus_20o4lqdcqp says:

    I am an INTP and my best friend growing up was an INFJ. We really were inseparable.

  • My best friend is and INFJ while I am INTP and I can guarantee the accuracy of this article from firsthand expierience.

  • Nessie says:

    There should be an article about how negatively INTP women are viewed by the world. Don’t see many articles on INTP ladies in general here or in other websites.

    • John says:

      Very true! But there’s so few of you! Diamonds in the rough, in my opinion! ^_^ of course i’m a fellow INTP, so i suppose i’m a bit biased! (Well, actually, i test out as a strong INTP on all but the Keirsey Temperament Sorter®-II (KTS®-II) …. in which i test out an even 10 to 10 split between INTP and INFP, on it, which seems to actually make more sense for me, now that it’s been some time, since i first discovered this, and had more time to assess it’s accuracy.
      *(shrugs)* — https://www.facebook.com/DestryRoach

      • Nessie Dot says:

        When I first took the online MBTI personality tests from several websites, I scored as either INFJ or as INTJ. After a while I figured out the inconsistencies in the tests and realized that I couldn’t really trust the online ones. I had to go out there and search every single introverted type with its traits and then see if they match with my oddness, to see which type I am. That’s how I found found out I’m INTP and it immediately hit ‘home’. 🙂

  • Jon-Michael Ivey says:

    I’m an INTP with an INFJ older sister. We were extremely close as young children, but her religiosity and mental illness (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Dependent Personality Disorder, and Bipolar Depression) have made her seem too fragile for us to relate on such a deep level since we were teens.

    I fell in love with another INFJ when I was 12, and was not ready to move on to a relationship with anyone else until after we got back in touch and became very close Platonic friends when I was 22. (The 3 girls with whom I’d considered a relationship during that time were also INFJs.) She was like a healthier and more open-minded version of my sister, and we shared more common interests. She was the only friend with whom I kept in contact after college, when I had to stay home to help my (INTJ) father through chemotherapy. Unfortunately she cut off contact a couple years ago when I was suffering from major depression (after being rejected romantically by another suspected INFJ) and she felt to drained by being by whole social support network.

    I met another INFJ almost two months ago who is fast becoming my new best (platonic) friend.

    • Nessie Dot says:

      Can I ask you something? Have you told all of those ‘INFJs’ to take a personality test and it turned out they’re INFJs or do you just assume they are so, based on what you know about them? Because I’m sure we can all understand that unless someone is an experienced psychologist, they can’t just ‘type’ someone out, just because they know them from a personal relationship. The human being is extremely complicated, so if we’re not always even sure about our own personality, I don’t see how one can just figure others out so simply. And I see a lot of people on the web talking about their peers and family being this or that and I’m like o.o ‘how exactly are you so sure about their type?’

  • Nessie says:

    Skeptical about this pairing. Haven’t seen it play out in real life yet, since I don’t go around thinking I can type other people just like that, but I leave room for doubt too. Thing is though, that INFJs tend to be a bit too ‘pushy’ and emotional, from what I understand from their description. We INTPs don’t like it when people get pushy with us or when they try to act like ‘psychics’ to understand or uncover our thoughts, it gets annoying. Also INFJs tend to act like ‘professors’ towards others which is another thing that annoys INTPs, since we don’t like someone coming to our life and tell us what to do with it, how to feel, how to act, etc.. So I’m not really sure if this is even a ‘golden pair’ thing, I’ll stay in tune about it though.

  • This is awesome! I’m an INFJ married to an INTP. It’s working well (we’ve been married almost 7 years but together for 13), and what you wrote about being drawn to the opposing perceiving functions especially rang true.

  • I am an INFJ and I have many super great INTP friends! It’s funny that INFJs and INTPs are rare because I have 2-3 of each type in my close circle of friends. My sister, who is an ENTP, is over run by INFJs and INTPs in her life.

  • Beth says:

    My younger sister is an INTP and I’m an INFJ… We’re in our 40’s now, and still spend more time with each other than anyone else. This article is pretty accurate!

  • A Kay says:

    I’m an INTP, my best friend is an INFJ. I am an extremely introverted person, never could fit in (at school my teachers thought I had Aspergers’). This INFJ is among the very very few people who understood me (to this day it still surprises me). It feels like my mind operates on a specific range of frequencies, she is among a those few people who can tune in. We could talk for hours on random topics that we find interesting. Often times our conversations turn deeply philosophical, then turn very silly just as quickly (most people would find us insane). One of my favorite things about our friendship is that sometimes we don’t even have to talk. We could just hang out and sit silently and read or whatever without feeling awkward. I admire many things in her. She is empathic, passionate, funny, and incredibly smart (she doesn’t realize how smart she is). I know this to be a fact from what I’ve observed.

  • Lori Sizemore says:

    I have a 20 year-old INFJ daughter (like me) and a 13 year-old INTP daughter. We’re so similar in a lot of ways (with the younger daughter) but I admire that quiet confidence and analytical thinking in my youngest. It’s so different (but connected) than the way I (and my oldest daughter) look at things.

  • Joel Kurtinitis says:

    Excellent article. INTP married to INFJ, and most everything in here is creepy accurate.

  • Anna M says:

    I am an INFJ married for to an INTP, and from my experience, this article is accurate. From the moment we met, we “got” each other in ways that I have not experienced with anyone else (though I do have a very deep but different type of connection with my INFP daughter.) My husband and I still talk for hours about meaningful and interesting things, and his quirky sense of humor adds much needed laughter and silliness to my more serious personality. I am more social than he, but if I spend too much time with most people, I end up feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, bored or irritated, and must retreat to my cave to regain my sense of centeredness. I experience the opposite with my husband- the more time we spend together, the better we get along. After 28 years I still like him! If combined, INFJs and INTPs only make up 5% of the population, no wonder this type of compatibility is so rare. I feel very fortunate and grateful for my wonderful mate.

  • Amy Sears says:

    I’m an INFJ and have been with an INTP for almost four years, and this article is spot on. At first, our different ways of perceiving the world caused clashes as we struggled to understand the other person, but now we have learned to understand each other and it really is enlightening. And he definitely has a weird sense of humour (which I love)!

  • PC Principal says:

    INTP here… 20… Married with my fuckin hand ._________.