Before I acknowledged I’m an introvert, certain things about my behavior seemed “different.” I felt guilty for doing those things, because they seemed abnormal compared to others, and they made me feel ashamed of myself. In turn, this shame made me insecure and underconfident.
All this changed when I started to look deeper into who I am and accept and love my true introverted self. Finally, I realized those things I felt ashamed of are not actually wrong. They are totally normal for me — for the introvert.
If you’re also an introvert, you’ve probably experienced feelings that you’ve never told anyone about because you think what you’re doing and feeling is not “right.” However, I want to show you, my dear fellow introverts, that having certain feelings and acting in a certain way is fully okay for us “quiet ones,” and we should never be ashamed of who we are. Although a growth mindset is important for anyone (us introverts included), we are who we are on some level, and we shouldn’t pretend to be someone else.
So, here are six “weird” things introverts do that are actually completely normal. Can you relate?
‘Weird’ Things Introverts Do
1. You feel strangely happy when your friends suddenly cancel on you.
As introverts, we love to spend time on our own. However, sometimes we want to leave our comfort zone and go hang out with people, especially if they are our closest friends. While such meetings may not happen very often, when they do, we may be truly waiting for the opportunity to spend some time with those special people. Even the most introverted among us crave strong friendships.
But let’s be honest. We often feel so relieved and happy when the plans are suddenly cancelled. This is something we keep to ourselves; we’ll never tell our friends that their last-minute text is actually a piece of good news! For some extroverts, it would mean a ruined evening, but for us introverts, it’s just another wonderful opportunity to spend a nice evening at home with a good book… or podcast, movie, video game, or whatever.
If you’ve ever felt happy about canceled plans, there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re probably an introvert.
2. You shy away from salespeople.
It’s true, the best shopping for the introvert is online shopping. Spending time in a huge, loud shopping mall crowded with people is not a comfortable situation for us “quiet ones.” What could be worse?
I’ll tell you what’s worse — being in an empty shop with a chatty salesperson who insists on hovering around you to “help” with your choice. Meant as good customer service, this situation doesn’t make the introvert feel comfortable. For this reason, if I have to go into a store, I always prefer the ones where I can stay invisible, walking around the shop without being approached.
If you regularly make a point of avoiding small talk with salespeople, you’re probably an introvert.
3. You don’t leave your apartment until your neighbor is gone.
Has this happened to you? You’re about to leave your apartment, but suddenly you hear or see your neighbor in the hallway. At this moment, you find yourself standing silently at your door, waiting for them to leave or disappear into their apartment. I even used to watch my neighbors through the peephole to make sure the way was clear.
The funny thing is, your neighbor might actually be a wonderful person, and this is not at all an attempt to escape someone you don’t like. Introverts don’t hate people, but they do hate being forced into awkward small talk.
If you’ve ever hidden from your neighbor to avoid a polite conversation, you’re not alone.
4. You pretend not to see an acquaintance in public.
Introverts have nothing against talking with other people — they are just not always ready for the conversation. Interacting with others requires a certain mood and being “charged up” with energy. As I said, sometimes introverts tend to behave in a funny way to stay out of the spotlight or escape unnecessary conversations. A typical situation: You’re getting groceries, just walking around the store; everything is going smoothly, and life is good.
That is, until you spy an acquaintance somewhere between the milk and yogurt. Your first reaction might be to get away as fast as possible, before they see you. You feel like, “I just came here to get groceries, not to have conversations with people.” So you simply change your direction and pretend you didn’t need milk at all. Next time.
5. You avoid being alone with people you don’t know well.
It’s happened to all of us. You’re walking with your good friend (somebody you feel truly comfortable with), when suddenly, your friend’s acquaintance shows up. First, it feels okay, and you patiently listen to their small talk, until your friend’s phone rings or they leave to go to the bathroom.
Now you have to start a conversation with the other person, by moving from passive listener to active speaker — a challenge that was not at all planned. It might seem like a small thing, but for the introvert, it can be very awkward! I always feel so relieved when my friend is finally back and takes over the conversation.
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6. You always check online before you make a call.
Why call when you can write? As an introvert, I try to apply this rule in any situation. At work, if my manager needs some information and asks me to call a colleague in another department, I never do. Instead, I try to find a way to send an email or text message. Sometimes my manager gets impatient: “So have you found out about ___?” That’s when I might tell a white lie, saying, “Nobody picked up, so I had to write an email.”
I don’t love lying to my boss, but honestly, this is just the most comfortable way for me to deal with such situations. There are indeed situations when a call is inevitable, but in most cases, this trick works. The same thing works for other services. There’s almost always a way to get in contact via a company’s website chat bot or contact form. Less stress — happier introvert!
Introvert, I believe the most important thing is to accept that this kind of behavior is normal and common for many of us “quiet ones.” You’re not “wrong” for being an introvert. It’s okay to save your limited energy and avoid unnecessary interactions that will drain you. You should in no way feel guilty for having those feelings.
I used to feel ashamed of myself in these situations, but now I know what’s best for me, so I act accordingly. I’ve embraced who I am — and sometimes even find myself laughing at my funny introvert moments.
What “weird” things do you do as an introvert? Let me know in the comments below.