Perhaps no other personality type is as mythologized as the INTJ. Everyone knows INTJs are the “masterminds,” the cold evil geniuses who have no emotions.
Being a shy introvert can feel like being a walking contradiction. How talkative you are depends on how comfortable you feel around the people you’re with.
As an introvert, I kept to myself in class. You must have figured that I, a quiet and reserved kid, would be your perfect target.
I lived life the extroverted way, only to end up feeling worse. I didn’t understand why I was so unhappy. Now I know I’m a sensitive introvert.
The INFP can feel like a walking paradox. Why is this? It’s because the INFP’s cognitive functions often contradict each other.
Year after year, as a quiet introvert, I heard the same thing: “she’s a great student but she needs to speak up more. She needs to be more outgoing.”
Although INFPs and ISFPs appear to be quite similar—they both have artistic preferences and strong values—they see the world quite differently.
I needed to stop prioritizing meaningless social events that I was just using to keep busy.
I didn’t know I was a highly sensitive person for a long while. I just knew I was “different.” For me, this was particularly marked in social situations.
For introverts, self-employment means more time by yourself and more energy leftover at the end of the day.