Turning small talk into big talk

Kalina Silverman, a freshmen at Northwestern University, approaches strangers on the street and asks them a big question like, what would you do if you found out you would die tomorrow?

She started her project, Big Talk, after having a deep conversation with a friend and wishing that every conversation could be like that.

“My dream for the whole concept is for it to become a social movement where people want to have big talk in everyday life,” she tells Huffington Post. “I’d love to have discussions or groups to talk about these things. I want it to inspire people to go up to strangers and start asking these kind of questions when they meet them.”

Introverts typically loathe small talk. Susan Cain writes in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, Many [introverts] have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.” 

Jenn Granneman is the founder of IntrovertDear.com and the author of The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World. She also cohosts The Introvert, Dear Podcast and blogs for Psychology Today. For most of her life, Jenn felt weird, different, and out of place because of her quiet ways. She writes about introversion because she doesn’t want other introverts to feel the way she did.