29 Very Real Introvert Problems, According to Twitter

It’s not easy being an introvert, especially when our society seems designed for extroverts. We battle small talk, crowds, social exhaustion, and the stigma of being quiet. The worst part is, often family, friends, co-workers, classmates, and lovers don’t understand the quirks that come with our introversion. We introverts can be complicated, so sometimes we don’t even understand ourselves. (Not sure if you’re an introvert? Take our free, quick quiz.)

The good news is, introverts can at least be comforted in knowing there are others out there who share their pain. Sick of people? Not sure how to get out of that awkward dinner party? Ready to scream because no one seems to understand you? The struggle is real and now there is a hashtag on Twitter to prove it: #IntrovertProblems.

There were so many great #IntrovertProblem tweets that we had a hard time choosing our favorites. But here they are, in no particular order. We hope you find them as oh-so-relatable as we did.

Have your own #IntrovertProblems? We’re always looking for more, so tweet them to @IntrovertDear, and we’ll retweet our favorite ones.
1. Feeling weird because you prefer to stay home on weekends.

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2. Because when you do go out, you have to deal with people.

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3. The social hangover is real.

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4. You can’t always explain your actions.

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5. You just know you can only really unwind at home.

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6. Other people don’t get it.

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7. You just don’t have the energy.

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8. And sometimes it’s just not worth it.

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9.  When a self-inflicted injury is better than talking on the phone.

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10. Not hearing from anyone for a while is a relief.

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11. Make meaningless small talk? No thanks.

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12. Because words are hard.

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13. You get accused of not trying.

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14. Sometimes avoidance is the best solution.

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15. Because people can be exhausting.

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16. If only talking were as easy as writing.

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17. You really have so many thoughts.

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18. Acting like an extrovert feels like you’re betraying yourself.

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19. If only there were more quiet spaces.

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20. What seems perfectly normal to you is strange to other people.

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21. Sometimes you really just want to be alone.

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 22. Doing “nothing” is your favorite.

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23. You shouldn’t feel guilty, but you do.

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24. Hanging out is better in theory.

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25. There’s a fine line between solitude and loneliness.

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26. Your feelings are rarely simple.

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27. Unfortunately, many people still don’t understand what it really means to be an introvert.

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28. You have your limits.

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29. Thankfully, most of your “introvert problems” can usually be cured by a little solitude.

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  • No. 20 really speaks to my experience of dining alone in college, at work, etc. I love this hashtag and the people who share it.

  • Cindy says:

    #24 is so me! Sometimes, when I have made plans, I hope they get cancelled!

  • Loved your list. It took me 50 years to realize I was an introvert.

    • Allison says:

      Me too Gail. Last year, 2014, the year I was turning 50, I learned I was an introvert and HSP. What an eye opener. So much fell into place.
      Do you find it great to know? I do!

      • Janet says:

        Same for me – life began at 50! What a relief.

      • Hunter Holy says:

        Hah, me too Allison. I am 53 and having rediscovered the MBTI it explained what psychotherapy couldn’t: my unchanging, yet perfectly normal disposition. To be an introvert is not an illness to fix but a disposition to be embraced and accepted as an important part of who I am. Now I am re-learning to live life with my introversion integrated into my personality, and not shunned.

  • Allison says:

    my bf doesn’t get that sometimes, after a day at work and then dealing with my kids, when I’m in my most favorite place, my bed, I want him to be there, but if I have to say one single word I’m going to scream.

    just let me be please. when I want to talk I will.

    thank you.

  • Paolo says:

    Vonny Moyes (11) and Angelique (14): you are victim of social conventions. These people actually just wanted to bang you, but it seems some small talk is necessary before approaching direct sex requests.

  • ElleSl says:

    So thankful for this post! I came to terms with my own introversion after I read Susan Cain’s book Quiet. It changed my life. It’s good to know you are not alone or a complete weirdo.

    • Janet says:

      That book absolutely changed my life. Until I read it I’d always thought there was something fundamentally wrong with me and that I would never be ok. Cue depression, addiction and all manner of self-inflicted misery. Thank god for Susan Cain and thank god that introversion is now not only openly being talked about but also actually kind of cool 🙂

  • Diane says:

    First, growing up with a family of extroverts and being ridiculed for my different temperament and preferences. Then getting a family of in-laws that are extreme extroverts. No wonder I’m always exhausted! At least I don’t feel as ashamed of my differences now.

  • Ans says:

    I found myself in all 29…. it’s like u describe me….

  • Alex Bell says:

    Any nice girls want to hang out and not talk? : )

  • No. 10… I relate completely. I have a mobile phone but rarely have it on. I don’t like the thought of being so easily contactable.