Introverts have limited social energy, so we can’t always socialize with others. But we can still show our love from afar.
As an introvert who is a Christian, I find myself thinking about ways I can spread love to the people in my life without depleting my social battery. While it is beneficial to spend quality time with those who are important to us, sometimes we introverts get overstimulated and need our “me time” to recharge (especially as parents). I mean, there are times when my family and I have spent every weekend going to a social obligation, which leaves me burnt out.
The good news is there are still many ways we introverts can show our love from afar without having to overexert ourselves socially. These actions will impact people more than you might think. I promise: If you try the ideas below, you will feel a sense of accomplishment in your social life (and still have some of your social battery left!).
6 Ways to Show Your Love as an Introvert
1. Invest in yourself and your needs first.
It’s no secret that when we neglect our own needs, we don’t feel our best — and this means we can’t give others our best self either. We introverts can quickly become irritable or worn down, which might cause our emotions to boil over if we can’t release our stress effectively or often enough.
I know introverts sometimes have people-pleasing tendencies, but to be able to truly love selflessly, we need to take care of our own needs and wants first. For me, I practice good self-care, no matter how busy I get. This looks like taking a hot bath with a glass of wine or binge-watching a new show. Everyone has different preferences on what activities allow them to relax. My husband — who is also an introvert — enjoys playing games on his phone and watching football to destress.
It is extremely important to recharge our social battery so we can feel refreshed and able to hold a conversation without wanting to find the nearest escape route. I find myself self-isolating when I neglect my needs, but you might lash out or experience extreme exhaustion. Whatever the case may be, put yourself first — it will benefit you, and in turn, others.
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2. Make something for someone, like cookies or a care package.
There is something about receiving a homemade gift that makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside. It shows that the person took time out of their busy life to make something just for you instead of simply adding a product to their Amazon cart (which is very easy to do!).
Personally, I love to bake and cook; I find these activities to be therapeutic. Every year around the holidays, I bake treats to share with my family and friends. It is also satisfying to be able to improve your craft every time you practice. Other ideas for hobbies and crafts could be knitting, painting, putting together a care package, or candle-making.
Whatever it is, use your introvert creativity. You’ll not only make someone else feel better, but you’ll feel better, too.
3. Use social media to your advantage.
When used strategically, social media can be a good way to keep family and friends up-to-date on what is happening in our lives. When someone leaves a kind comment on your post, it makes you feel cared about. So spread the love and comment on someone else’s post in return.
For example, if someone posts a photo of themselves, tell them how wonderful they look. Even if the person is someone you haven’t talked to for a while, commenting shows that you care; you are contributing to their lives and making them feel good when you give them a compliment.
Of course, you can make social media as introvert-friendly as possible. If you don’t want to share personal details or struggles about your life, that’s perfectly okay. Introverts tend to be private, so follow your comfort level.
4. Give an hour of your time to somebody.
For a lot of introverts, one-on-one communication is easier than a group gathering. You can truly focus on what the other person is saying and not have to worry about being talked over or interrupted as much. Plus, introverts are expert listeners.
If it’s been a while since you last spent time with a friend or family member, ask them to go out to coffee or lunch with you. Doing this shows them that you care, and it lessens the drain on your social battery. Plus, if it’s a cup or coffee or a meal, there will be a natural end point, so you won’t end up spending an excessive amount of time with them.
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5. Text them funny memes as conversation-starters before delving into deeper topics.
Imagine you sit down and put your feet up after a long day at work. Instinctively, you reach for your phone to unwind. Just as you unlock your screen, a FaceTime call from your mom pops up. You groan — not because you don’t want to talk to your mom, but because you hate talking on the phone.
As introverts, it can be easier for us to convey our thoughts through writing instead of speaking. That is why texting is my go-to when interacting with others — there are no awkward pauses and there is time to process what the other person is saying before you respond. It’s easier to collect your thoughts and be mindful of what you say.
Showing others love through texting is as simple as checking on them and asking them an open-ended question; not just how they have been, but something specific. My favorite way of connecting through text is sharing memes or viral videos that you think the other person might like, something that will make them laugh. It’s a great conversation-starter and can create inside jokes between the two of you. Then you can segue into deeper topics, which we introverts love.
6. Donate to a charity or business that you care about.
I am a huge animal lover. If I see a commercial about animal cruelty, I become an emotional wreck (and am not ashamed). Animals are so innocent, and if they don’t have a happy life, it makes me want to do something about it. It’s rewarding for me to donate dog food or toys to local shelters and know that I am helping these animals have a higher chance at adoption. (You can also go donate your time at these shelters — the animals can definitely use your love!)
Giving to your community or a charity is spreading love and showing what matters to you. Donate food to a local food pantry or used clothes to a Salvation Army or Goodwill. You don’t have to spend a lot of money; give what you have or what you can. It will mean a lot to someone — maybe more than you realize.
The World Always Needs More Love — Little Actions Add Up
With all the horrible headlines we encounter on a daily basis, it may seem like there is always a dark cloud hanging over our heads. Because of this distraction, someone close to you might be going through the toughest time of their life without anyone being aware of it.
Be willing to give grace and try to enjoy all the happy moments life throws your way. Then show your love and appreciation to others in a way that is genuinely you. Embrace your unique personality and show the world what it means to be loved by an introvert.
What about you, my fellow introverts? What are ways you spread love in this world? I’d love to hear in the comments below!
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